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Pro-Choice Blog Archive

Right here, Right NOW

There’s so much that’s been brewing, but between work, volunteer commitments, and being sick, I haven’t had time to write. But certain urgent issues must receive attention!

Today is Equal Pay Day — the day each year that female workers’ earnings finally catch up with men’s earnings for all of last year. Why do women earn less, and why do we stand for it? I don’t want to hear that it’s about education or the fact that women take time off to have kids — even knowing that I’m an exception, I still know women that have more technical and more advanced degrees than their male counterparts that take a back seat in pay. And in my career so far, I’ve known men to take far more paternity leave (up to 9 months!) than the women who’ve taken maternity leave. It’s time for equality — which still needs to be written into the Constitution — and the Paycheck Fairness Act can help.

Now that the Supreme Court is out to take over my husband’s job and prescribe medical treatment for people in this country (or is it just women in this country?) EVERYONE ought to be scared. If you want safe and effective options available to you when your life is in danger, when you want a choice in what happens to you, support the Freedom of Choice Act. Even if you don’t support abortion-rights, think about the fact that the Federal Abortion Ban makes women into second-class citizens, unable to make decisions about their lives and bodies, even in times of crisis or mortal danger — now aren’t you appalled?

PLEASE, encourage your senators and representatives to support both of these important bills! Haven’t we had enough of this administration’s “Daddy knows best” misogyny and must we institute it into law?!

Blog for Choice

I wish that I had the time to more eloquently and more thoroughly explain myself on this topic, but I’m short on time today. What follows will have to suffice.

Before I start on why I’m pro-choice, I’d like to point out that today in Bismarck, North Dakota, the ND legislature is voting on three new bills to ban abortion and restrict birth control options:

  • HB 1466: Is a South Dakota style abortion ban. This bill would make abortion illegal in North Dakota if Roe v Wade is overturned; even in cases where the woman is the victim of rape or incest.
  • HB 1489: Bans the most common forms of birth control, depriving women of their full family planning options.
  • HB 1464: Scripts what doctors must tell their pregnant patients and prevents doctors from sharing their best medical judgment.

It’s enough to make me scream, as well as weep, for the women of North Dakota. I wish that I could be in Bismarck in person today, but I’m there in spirit. Please take action and send your pro-choice message to the ND legislature.

Why I’m Pro-Choice

  • I’m pro-choice because I believe women are more than baby-makers.
  • I’m pro-choice because I don’t believe sex is a sin or “dirty”, and I don’t believe its only purpose is procreation.
  • I’m pro-choice because my high school “sex ed” classes didn’t teach me a damn thing about contraception. Nor did anyone in my family.
  • I’m pro-choice because no contraceptive method is 100% effective and, even when used correctly, accidents happen.
  • I’m pro-choice because I’ve yet to find a doctor (OB/GYN or other) who can thoroughly explain how The Pill works and how I can be sure it’s effective.
  • I’m pro-choice because I know the panic a woman can suffer when she thinks she’s pregnant.
  • I’m pro-choice because I’ve seen how unplanned pregnancy can seriously interrupt or ruin a person’s life (and I speak of both the woman/mother and man/father, here).
  • I’m pro-choice because I don’t believe the “life” of an unborn fetus, which could not survive outside the womb, should be valued over that of a living, breathing woman.
  • I’m pro-choice because of the threat of sexual predators who may rape and impregnate a woman against her will.
  • I’m pro-choice because there are already too many unwanted and uncared-for children in this world, and I believe to bring another unwanted one in is cruel to that child.
  • I’m pro-choice because the “pro-life” community is devious, and blatantly misstates facts and spreads misinformation.
  • I’m pro-choice because I respect other people’s beliefs. I don’t necessarily agree with or understand them, so don’t impose them on me. My belief doesn’t impose on you, after all.
  • I’m pro-choice because I believe that people have the right to make choices about their bodies and lives, all by themselves, without the interference of the government or church. And to that end…
  • I’m pro-choice because I don’t want or need anyone making decisions for me. I’m a well-educated, mentally-competent human being. I don’t appreciate the government or anyone else thinking otherwise.

See other posts tagged as Blog for Choice.

Sex DOES happen!

Rebekah E. Gee, M.D. and M.P.H., has written a piece for the New England Journal of Medicine, Plan B, Reproductive Rights, and Physician Activism. It’s well worth a read! Here’s my favorite bit:

Our government has been burying its head in the sand, pretending that sex does not happen. This agenda sets women back decades, threatening their right to achieve equally in society by robbing them of options for planning their childbearing.

Anti-Santorum != Pro-Casey

, I’ve had it with you. Quit asking for my support. Quit asking me for money! Especially in requests like this beauty that came in today’s mail:

Please join me in opposing Santorum for reelection by making a generous contribution to his opponent, Bob Casey Jr.

Letter from Al Gore on behalf of the Bob Casey for Pennsylvania Committee

Ha! As much as I hate (yes, hate) Rick Santorum, that’s a very, very poor reason to support or vote for you. C’mon Bob, be honest with the people! If you’re soliciting funds, you’d better start talking about what you will stand for, about what you’ll do differently for the people of Pennsylvania and for the country.

I already wrote to you, personally, to tell you that I would not support your run for senator from Pennsylvania, since you do not support a women’s right to choose. I urged you to change your political position (not your personal views) and to support the DNC’s platform of defending women’s rights. But you’ve chosen not to. Fine.

However, you continue to barage me with requests for funds… and now I’ve had it. I was throwing away the solicitations previously, but you know what? Now I’m going to do what I used to do as a pro-environment, anti-junk mail teenager — I’m going to start sending all of this crap right back to you. That’s right, let your campaign pay for the return postage.

And maybe, just maybe, by blogging about this, others will follow suit. I hope they do. And I hope the cost affects your finances enough for you to take notice. For the pro-choice voters of Pennsylvania, you just won’t do as an alternative to Santorum.

Apparently, I’m just a breeder

South Dakota lawmakers have just signed a law that could make nearly all abortions illegal. I want to vomit. I want to scream!

South Dakota lawmakers, and others that support this type of legislation, clearly see it as their right to enslave women of reproductive age, making us into nothing more than breeders. In the case of the SD law, they’d force women who have suffered through rape or incest to carry and birth a child. This puts SD on par with countries like Afghanistan and Iran, where women’s rights are often restricted in other ways. What’s next, South Dakota, what’s next?

And tell me, South Dakota lawmakers, is access to birth control going to be improved? Would sex education be improved?

And what legislation are you proposing to punish men who commit rape and incest? Forced vasectomies? Castrations? What requirements do these men then have in assisting financially in raising the child that they helped create? Or in assisting the mother with medical bills, lost wages, etc.?

If you have no answers to these questions, South Dakota lawmakers, you’ve been foolish in your policy making, and you are clearly unfit to fill your jobs. I hope that the people — women and men of your state — will vote you out in upcoming elections.

If you feel as I do about South Dakota’s abortion law, I encourage you to join Planned Parenthood’s National Day of Solidarity with South Dakota. Or post signs, write letters, post to your blogs!

South Dakota can’t repeal a woman’s right to free speech!